Give feedback on effort, not outcomes
Praising the process — consistency, strategy, problem-solving — builds resilience and a growth mindset; praising outcomes alone builds fragility.
When to use this
- When a client reports a win or a good result
- When a client is being hard on themselves about an outcome
- When reviewing the week's progress — before discussing numbers
- When a client is fragile in their confidence and needs grounding
Why this matters
How a coach gives feedback shapes how a client thinks about themselves and their ability to change. Research by Carol Dweck on growth mindset shows that praise directed at outcomes ("You're talented", "You lost 2kg — great!") inadvertently creates outcome dependency: when results disappear, so does confidence.
Feedback directed at effort and process ("You stayed consistent through a stressful week — that's real discipline", "You noticed what wasn't working and adjusted — that's exactly the skill you need") builds the belief that improvement is within the client's control, making them more resilient to setbacks.
In practice
Client: "I only went to the gym twice this week, not three times like I planned." Outcome-focused coach: "Okay, let's get back to three next week." Effort-focused coach: "Tell me about the two sessions you did make. What did you do to make those happen?" Client describes how they rearranged their schedule. Coach: "That kind of problem-solving is exactly what builds a lasting habit. What made the third session hard?" Now they're learning from both success and struggle.
What to say
Word-for-word phrases you can use in session.
- "You showed up three times this week when life was genuinely hard. That's the skill — not the number on the scale.
- "Tell me about the sessions you did make. What did you do to make those happen?
The follow-up question turns the praise into learning — the client articulates their own problem-solving strategy in their own words.
Source: Dweck, C.S. (2006). Mindset: The New Psychology of Success. Random House.
Try it today
After your next client session, write down three things to praise. Replace any outcome-based praise with process-based praise (e.g., "You lost weight" → "You stayed consistent for four weeks straight — that's the foundation everything else builds on").
Make it a habit
When reviewing client progress, always ask "What did they do that led to this result?" before "What was the result?" Make effort visible before outcome.
Watch out for
- Effort praise that feels hollow — 'Great effort!' without specifics doesn't land. Name the exact behaviour and what it demonstrates.
- Ignoring outcomes entirely — clients care about results. Acknowledge the result, then redirect to what the client controlled.
- Praising effort when the strategy genuinely needs to change — sometimes the right response is to examine the plan, not just celebrate the trying.
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More tips
Ask permission before offering advice
Seeking a client's permission before sharing information or advice shifts the dynamic from expert-to-patient to collaborative, increasing receptivity.
Help clients plan for setbacks before they happen
Clients who anticipate obstacles and pre-plan their response bounce back from stumbles quickly — instead of treating one missed session as proof that the whole attempt has failed.
Use open questions to unlock client insight
Replacing closed yes/no questions with open questions invites clients to explore their own thinking, uncovering goals, barriers, and readiness for change.